Well... first thing that I always tell people is to take the power back (no, not Rage).
The concept is really simple: Social blunders like that come from fear, regardless of what it might be of. The biggest one that I see is either fear of rejection or fear of looking foolish (which is really fear of rejection); You're afraid of what they'll think of you. By fearing of what they think, worrying over you you're coming across, you're giving them the power over you and not being able to be yourself.
One of the easiest ways to solve that problem is simply recognizing it as a problem. You'll notice that once you take that power away from them, you'll be able to act more freely.
My biggest fear when I was in high school was rejection. I was able to conquer that once I began to figure this out: Letting one person have that kind of power over you is rediculous. Now, whenever I'm asking a lady out, I always keep this in mind: Keep the power in my hands. Knowing that allows my actions and reactions to be cool and relaxed. Now, no matter what their response to my question is, I have the same attitude. They say yes: "Sweet". They say no: "Sweet"
If they say no, that simply means that you've got more time to find someone who's actually right for you. It's simple as that.
Hopefully this helps.
-Jackson Puppek
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I'll give you my normal shpeal in just a second... just got to find it first